I like traveling, but it is always draining on me. I’m a creature of habit, so for better and worse, it takes a lot of mental and emotional energy for me to travel.
My realization of and respect for this is an act of self care.
I have a long to-do list of things I could do today. My tendency is to rush to get them all done, because I have historically thrived on the sense of accomplishment that comes with crossing things off a list. But in truth, none of these things HAVE to be done today.
This tendency has definitely benefited me. I’ve accomplished many things due to my determination and perseverance. But I’ve also learned that this tendency has some major drawbacks. It tends to make me anxious and unable to relax until *everything* is done. Spoiler- everything is never done. It takes away from my ability to really enjoy any moment. It’s draining in itself, and I’ve come to realize that it’s ok to take a break. I’ll be better for it in the long run. And when I’m better, everyone else in my life is better too. As they say, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
This type of self care is important for everyone, but may be even more necessary when we are grieving or healing from a trauma. Being with our emotions is HARD work that deserves to be acknowledged and respected. Where can you refill your cup?
I came home from a trip last night. Today I’m exhausted and tense. So today I think I’ll only cross two things off my to-do list:
2)social media post
For the rest of the day, it’s ok for me to rest.
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